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It Was Necessary

Writing Prompt Day 10
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Fantasia did a video not too long ago that went viral and she sang this song by Dennis Reed: 

I am who I am today
Because God used my mistakes
He worked them for my good
Like no one else ever could

God told us to tell you 
It was necessary 

This song touched many people because as you look back over your life, you can see where even the ‘bumps’ in your journey aided you in arriving at this current place. The mistakes you’ve made helped to shape who you are today. How? The lessons that we learn from our mistakes is what molds us into better people. Acclaimed write Oscar Wilde once said, “Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes”. Those experiences we go through on our journey leads us to new places of wisdom, understanding and even revelation. Authors Dr. Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg said in their book, Get Out of Your Own Way, “We always learn from our mistakes, but we don’t always learn the right lessons”. It’s been my personal experience that when I don’t learn the ‘right’ lesson, I’m presented with the issue again and again until I get it right. 

I’m glad that God is in total control of everything and can even use my mistakes, my hiccups, my trip-ups, and even my unfaithfulness and make something beautiful. Remember, whatever you’ve gone through in your life, know that it was necessary. It was necessary for your development, it was necessary for your journey, and most of all it was necessary for you to be a blessing to someone else through sharing what you’ve gone through or teaching them a better way. Sometimes our ‘experiences’ are given so that we can help someone else and say ‘if God did it for me, He can surely do it for you’! Sometimes those mistakes that we victoriously bounced back from will serve as reminders that if God did it before, He can certainly do it again! 


Whatever your ‘it’ is, remember that ‘It’ was necessary.  



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