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Hey Girrrl Stop Nation! We are about to enter a new year and a new decade and we need to get our planning, goals and intentions in our minds and on paper now! What will be your defining word for 2020? What one word will you pick to guide you in the coming year and make it a successful one? Your word could be something like: -Courage -Do -Bold -Fearless And the list goes on! Think about what your word should be, pray about it also and see what Word God shows you. This word is for you and should be your motivator in all endeavors! In addition to your defining word, I want to encourage all of you to choose a defining scripture for 2020! I know this will be difficult as there are so many but do your best to narrow it down to one! I’m excited to share my defining word and scripture for 2020 with you all: Self-belief  Ephesians 3:20 Self-belief is my word for 2020 because I do believe it is one area that has held me back. There’s a twinge of doubt on my part as to whether ...

The season of thanksgiving has come upon us once again. As I reflect on being thankful I’m immediately reminded of all that God has done for me. I think about how God has allowed me to wake up each morning and how He has kept a roof over my head through perilous times. I think about how He has protected me from danger seen and unseen and most importantly how He has kept my mind when I thought I would lose it! God has done so much for me that I can’t help but be thankful, not just at Thanksgiving but every day! Unfortunately, thankfulness can be easily eradicated when we participate in the following: -Complaining -Comparing You can’t complain and be thankful in the same breath. When we complain about our circumstances or life occurrences, we are focusing more on our problem than the One who can solve the problem. Complaining takes our focus off of God and this is not a good place to be. Complaining keeps you in a place that is negative, dark and sad because it narr...

It’s been said that people may not remember what you said to them but they will always remember how you made them feel. This is how I remember Brock Benbow as one who would make me smile. I’m one of those people who if I hear someone laughing, I don’t even have to know what they are laughing at, I’m probably gonna start laughing too! Same goes for when someone smiles: you smile, I smile. Brock had a smile that seemed to be etched on his face, it never moved. I imagine that even the undertakers will not be able to contour his face away from that smile. God decided to call Brock, my Sunday School student, home on November 11, 2019 at the tender age of 24 years old. So young, so sudden. I’m finding it hard to grapple with this one and I even find myself at times questioning God. Why him God? Why this one? Why now? The questions fill my head but they topple over when I re-focus on the fact the God knows best. I am grateful that I had the opportunity to spend the majority of the...

Well it’s about 60-something days left in 2019 and I want you to know that some great things can still happen! Maybe you’ve missed the mark on some of your 2019 goals. The good news is even if you didn’t fully get to goal, there is still some time and room to make some serious strides! Here are 3 things you can do to finish strong in 2019: -Re-Visit! – Visit your ‘why’ again, that reason why you wanted to complete this goal in the first place! Why did you want to start the business? Why did you want to begin the ministry? What is your big ‘why’? Visit that place and discover why you wanted to complete this goal!  -Re-Ignite! – Once you’ve re-discovered your ‘why’ now you can re-ignite the fire that gets you pumped! Read some inspirational posts like Girrrl Stop or put on that song that motivates you and gets you going! Whateva you gotta do – do it and re-ignite the fire within you! -Re-Do! – Just do something! I don’t care what it is, do at least one small thing...

Romans 8:28 - And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God , to those who are the called according to   His  purpose . I wanted to just touch on this scripture a bit more this week as we talked about it briefly the week before last. What I love about this scripture is the assurance it gives us because of the One who is in total control! Let’s look at it a little more closely.  And we know… I don’t have time in this post to touch on the conjunction ‘And’ because that would have us speak about the verses before this one (Girrrl you should read it tho!). So for purposes of this conversation we will start with the word ‘know’. There are some things that we have to be completely sure of and have no doubt about! We have to know who Jesus Christ is and recognize his full authority over all of the earth and things outside of the earth. When we recognize God’s true authority and omnipotence (having all power), we will stand in full confi...

If you’ve lived long enough you’ve experienced some setbacks. Whether it is with your career, school, business, or just your personal life, we have all had a setback or two or three or four (you get the picture)! When things don’t quite work out as expected It tends to bring on feelings of depression, discouragement and despair. These places of emotional residency are not where God wants his believers to reside and settle but rather they should just be a short pit stop at best, as you push your way through this thing called life. Don’t sweat the setbacks! I repeat, don’t sweat the setbacks! Why? Because they are the foundation for your next set-up! I hear you asking how can that very thing that has weighed me down, caused me to suffer and almost taken me out be the catalyst for my victory? The answer is God! God has a way of setting things up just right and making them all come together for your good! I’m reminded of the story of Joseph. His brothers were jealous of him and conspir...

I’ve been doing a series on ‘winning’ all coming from Ephesians 2:10. The first was Designed to Win as we are the workmanship/masterpiece of God and therefore he designed us to WIN! Then we looked at being Destined to Win because the ‘good works’ that God designed us for he ‘prepared them beforehand’ therefore making us destined to WIN! As we explore Ephesians 2:10 even more we see that God did design and destined us to win but we also see that we have a part to fulfill, we have to be: Determined to Win!  Ephesians 2:10 states, “For we are His workmanship (design), created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand (destined) that we should walk in them (determined)”. God says ‘I’ve given you the foundation for you to build on, I’ve given you the assurance that you were designed and destined for success and I’ve given you the insurance by my death on that old rugged cross’. Essentially God is saying ‘I’ve given you what works – now work it!’ When we rea...

Last week I pray you were encouraged by the post Designed to Win coming from Ephesians 2:10:  http://www.girrrlstop.com/2019/08/designed-to-win.html   This week I just want to encourage you even more to let you know that not only were you ‘designed to win’ but you were also Destined to Win! Ephesians 2:10 states, “ For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them”. Exploring Ephesians 2:10 some more, we see that we are God’s workmanship (design) created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God ‘prepared beforehand’ (destined)! Know that God didn’t just make this stuff up on the fly but planning and preparation went into you woman of God – beforehand! This is exciting news because it doesn’t matter what things look like, how circumstances turn out, or even if it looks like you’re losing – God says you WIN because He has destined you to WIN! Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that ...

This post is for those who may feel like they are NOT winning right now! Life is tough for you in this season. Finances are haywire, relationships are fragmented, job satisfaction is unimaginable, and things in general are just not going your way! You feel weary, depleted and at your wit’s end. No matter what the story looks like today, just know that it’s not how the story will end – why? You were designed to win! Ephesians 2:10   (NKJV) tells says, “ For we are  His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. ” If we look at this verse in the New Living Translation is reads, “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. ” The words ‘workmanship’ and ‘masterpiece’ shows God as our Creator or our Designer! We are all custom made, there are no duplicates, everyone of you has been handcrafted by the Master! Because your...

This morning I side-eyed God. I actually do this a lot because He moves in such an unconventional and non-traditional way. Sometimes I’m thrown by how the Lord operates, specifically with me. This particular week has been challenging to say the least. For starters, my character was attacked in my workplace causing tension on my team. Then I conducted an exit interview with an ex-boyfriend (yes, I do this because I am a complete wreck) so that I could gain more insight into why he decided to leave the company of Reebs; my findings were not all favorable. The financial storm I’m in is becoming unbearable and the pressure seems to be mounting up. I devised a possible solution but that solution requires the participation of another party and this week my first request was denied.  I don’t recall but I don’t believe I have ever woke up with tears in my eyes which lends a new meaning to Bey’s ‘I Woke Up Like This’. So where did the side-eye come in? After I woke up and dried my own ...

To the Girrrl Stop Nation! Please check out this video as I talk about my blog and my heart as it relates to the blog. I also talk about who my core audience is. I love y'all to pieces!  -Reebs!

Check out Part 2 of the video Consistency. Here I explore a little about what God says about this subject. Actions do speak louder than words!!! Watch what people do! 

Consistency is important in dating when trying to form and cultivate long-lasting relationships. It's vital to whether the relationship lives or dies. Inconsistent behavior is indeed a red flag and should be addressed as soon as you see it. If no corrective action takes place - deuces!!!  Check out the latest video blog post on this topic! 

Negative thoughts, we all have them from time to time. Sometimes they come in quickly like an express train that is 10 minutes delayed and other times they linger like Baptist church people after service is over. They are the thoughts that can speak to the core of your soul and make it difficult to discern the truth from the lies. Negative thoughts like: I’m not good enough or I’m too much of this or too much of that. Whatever the thoughts may be for you, you can get past them. One thing about a negative thought is that they rarely show up out of nowhere but rather they been planted some time ago and over time, they’ve been watered by life’s experiences and our beliefs about ourselves. We can almost look at them as seeds that have been planted in our psyche over time, buried beneath and then they grow. I equate negative thoughts to squatters. You know squatters right? The people who take up residence in a property they don’t own. True story: Shortly after my father passed...

Clearly I love inspirational posts – that’s what you get when you visit Girrrl Stop at any of the social media sites (i.e. FB, da gram, & tweetz!); you get inspired! Whether it is a scripture or some sassy, cute quote, I always aim to inspire! Sometimes tho, I get annoyed reading some of these type of posts and my apologies if you do too. I mean how many times am I going to tell women that they are worth it? I think I might be at about 109 times right now! I struggled on what to write this week because this week and in recent weeks, I’ve been the one to actually need the inspiration. At times during the last few weeks I’ve felt discarded, rejected and simply worthless. I felt unworthy to inspire others, unworthy to give instruction/advice and unworthy to be what I know I am: DOPE! It was in this moment that I realized that there is always an audience for even the most repeated message. So for the 110 th time:  YOU ARE WORTH IT!! Am I? Yes you are!! You are worth w...

I’ve never understood exit interviews in the workplace. I mean, they’re so pointless because nobody will ever truly be honest in the interview, in efforts not to burn bridges. When asked, “Why are you deciding to move on?” no one is going to say to the HR person, “Well I’m moving on because this company sucks, the pay sucks and the people suck!” rather, people will usually give a more diplomatic answer like, “Although I’ve grown immensely from my time here, I was presented with a new opportunity where I’ll be able to take what I’ve learned here and apply it to the next phase of my career” or something like that. The HR Exit interviewer will never hear the real, true reason why someone leaves.  Well, I’ve discovered that exit interviews in relationships are the same way - a straight, real answer is never given. People will present to you a reason that they feel you want to hear or maybe one that they feel you can handle. When love exits stages left, you’ll rarely know the true ...

Listen, I know the Bible says not to steal but trust me, if you hand me a pen or I see a nice one nearby I’m probably going to swipe it! Whether on purpose or by circumstance (like I forgot to give it back) I’m a self-proclaimed pen thief! If you don’t ask for it back, chances are you will never see your pen again lol! Yes, I’m terrible!  What I have discovered though is that I’m not the only pen thief lurking around deez streets! Some of y'all are undercover pen thieves because you keep stealing the pen that God is trying to write your love story with! Ooop! The Lord is saying, I’m trying to write a beautiful, happy-ending love story for you but every time I turn around, you got the pen in your hand!  As we are on the eve of Valentine’s Day 2019, I hear the Lord saying, “Daughter, I love you but I don’t need your help”! Stop trying to pen the story the way you want it to go and let God give you what you need. God is trying to give you caring, loving, and attentiv...

In the world of dating, you have to make an effort to get out and meet new people! Yes you should pray to God and yes you should wait on God but you also have a part to play!  Make this season of love the one where you do something different :)!! Enjoy this video and then post your weekend plan ideas in the comments below or on the social media pages.  -Reebs! 

What is your defining word for 2019? Have you picked one yet? If not, there's still time!! Watch this quick video and then post your word and why you chose it in the comments!!

Girrrl! Say bye to fear - it has no place here!! Don't let fear hold you back from your goals this year. The world needs you and your gifts! Let's do this!! -Reebs!

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No matter what comes your way, stay the course! No matter what distractions come, stay the course! No matter what confusion or chaos comes your way, be steadfast and stay the course!!

Today is the first day of the year which for many is a day that represents new beginnings! It’s the day that begins the new diets, the new exercise regimens, and new commitments. I love new commitments just as much as the next person but what I’ve come to realize is that New Year’s Day is not a magical day. It doesn't erase things. If you don’t intentionally make a mindset shift - it’s just Tuesday!  To create new habits or break old ones you have to be intentional about your willingness to do so. It has nothing to do with it being January 1st but has everything to do with your desires and your actions. When these two collide results are produced!  One way to set your mindset shift in motion is to develop a defining word for the new year. This word will guide your actions and be the word that shapes your movement for the new year. To figure what your word should be, jot down some words that resonate with you. Your list could look like:  Productive Do ...