Girrrl Stop!

Have you ever caught yourself saying this? 
-He’s separated and up for grabs! -He’s emotionally checked out of the marriage years ago so he’s single -He’s separated, he doesn’t even live with her anymore -He’s separated so he’s available
Girrrl Stop! Let me say that again: Girrrl Stop!


Separated is still married and last time I checked, you can date a married man! Don’t be fooled and don’t be made a fool of. When you encounter separated men you never know what can come of that situation so it’s best to fall back until the divorce is in black!
If you date online, you will see that the sites do allow separated men to sign-up and in their profile it will say ‘Legally Separated’ but real talk, that still means ‘Legally Married’. Many men and women choose to date while they are separated because maybe they feel the relationship is really over and they want to move on, however this can be a recipe for disaster for the single person!
Here are a few reasons single women should steer clear of…

I recently heard this term from my younger/older cousin. I call him that because he’s younger chronologically but very mature in many ways. When he said thottin’ & boppin’ you know I had to ask! The term THOT (which I loath) means ‘that ho over there’. The term boppin’ here suggest to be proud of what you’re doing almost as if to have no shame about it. I laughed at this as he explained to me what it was because honestly it just sounds funny. After giving it some thought, it is my message to my Christian sisters! 

Stop thottin’ & boppin’ in the church! Thottin’ and boppin’ brings consequences and unnecessary stress. What do I mean? We all go through seasons of disobedience and as the old folks used to say, obedience is better than sacrifice. Maybe you’ve found yourself here: dating a man in the church, sleeping with him and still coming to sing on the choir on Sunday, and dare I say still got the nerve to take communion! Girrrl Stop! This should not be! You can’t be fornicati…

In this world full of colloquialisms there seems to be a new one every week, I can hardly keep up. From the young generation to hip hop trendsetter to the LBGT community, they are constantly coming up a new saying. I mean, the name of my blog is proof of that - Girrrl Stop - ok I just love saying it, lol.  Let’s see, we have ‘Bye Felichia’, ‘Girl Bye’ and I’m sure by the time I’m finished writing this there will be another one - Bye Everything! One of my favorites is ‘Chile Boo’, made relevant to me by my good friend Stephanie. She kills all foolishness with two words - Chile Boo!
I received an IM from a male associate one night past what I consider to be a respectable hour. He just asked, “what you doing up so late, working on your blog?” True, I was up but not to be IM’ing yo! I ignored it and answered him the next day. I was civil but I had to make it clear to him in my IM, “let’s 86 the messages beyond midnight”. This clown wrote back, “Really? Chile Boo”. 
GIRRRL! Please stop let…

When I saw this on someone’s timeline I truly laughed out loud, it’s hella funny (sorry I’m still caught up in Straight Outta Compton). Although I really dislike terms like side chick, jump-off, etc., I'm going to use it on today. We all know the real reason Jesus died for us but in essence, this quote drives home the fact that Jesus wants you to have His best. God’s best is not being with someone else’s man ladies, this has to stop! Stop believing the myth of there’s not enough men because it’s not true. Stop believing the myth that all the good men are taken because they’re not! 
Don’t settle for sloppy seconds. Don’t settle for used goods. This is what I mean: you wouldn’t wear another woman’s underwear after she took them off, right? Then why are you sleeping with her man? I pray my readers aren’t doing this but I’m just trying to make a point here! 

Don’t settle for disrespect of any kind. When you’re a side chick, you’re being disrespected, period (as well as the "main c…