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Jesus Didn't Die On The Cross For You To Be A Side Chick

When I saw this on someone’s timeline I truly laughed out loud, it’s hella funny (sorry I’m still caught up in Straight Outta Compton). Although I really dislike terms like side chick, jump-off, etc., I'm going to use it on today. We all know the real reason Jesus died for us but in essence, this quote drives home the fact that Jesus wants you to have His best. God’s best is not being with someone else’s man ladies, this has to stop! Stop believing the myth of there’s not enough men because it’s not true. Stop believing the myth that all the good men are taken because they’re not! 

Don’t settle for sloppy seconds. Don’t settle for used goods. This is what I mean: you wouldn’t wear another woman’s underwear after she took them off, right? Then why are you sleeping with her man? I pray my readers aren’t doing this but I’m just trying to make a point here! 


Don’t settle for disrespect of any kind. When you’re a side chick, you’re being disrespected, period (as well as the "main chick" I might add)! I don’t care what cockamamy story that ninja gives you, it’s disrespect with a capital D (no pun intended). Have respect for yourself so that you won’t accept anything less from others. Some reading this may say this should be self-explanatory or that it is elementary but clearly it isn’t from the foolishness I hear from Christian men and women. 

Don’t settle for anything less than God’s best. God didn’t intend for you to be stressing out in relationships and trying to convert men. Newsflash, you can’t change ‘em and honestly if you feel you need to change him, he’s not for you. The new thing is ‘honesty’. Men don’t even lie about this stuff anymore, they come right out and tell you. It is then up to you to decide this is not something you're going to accept; you have to say to yourself, 'I’ll be just fine waiting until the right man comes along'. 


Lastly, once you get out of this mess (and you will because the God we serve is one who delivers) for God’s sake, don’t go back. Yes people can change and yes situations can get better but those are usually the exceptions to the rule. Even if he decides to ‘choose you’ that simply means your former position is now open and it’s just a matter of time before another side chick enters; unless of course he’s too old and tired and broke down which in that case you don't want him anyway (I digress). My point is stop going back to dead situations - ladies, Jesus didn't shed his blood for this! (lol) IJS…

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