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Thottin' & Boppin'

I recently heard this term from my younger/older cousin. I call him that because he’s younger chronologically but very mature in many ways. When he said thottin’ & boppin’ you know I had to ask! The term THOT (which I loath) means ‘that ho over there’. The term boppin’ here suggest to be proud of what you’re doing almost as if to have no shame about it. I laughed at this as he explained to me what it was because honestly it just sounds funny. After giving it some thought, it is my message to my Christian sisters! 

Stop thottin’ & boppin’ in the church! Thottin’ and boppin’ brings consequences and unnecessary stress. What do I mean? We all go through seasons of disobedience and as the old folks used to say, obedience is better than sacrifice. Maybe you’ve found yourself here: dating a man in the church, sleeping with him and still coming to sing on the choir on Sunday, and dare I say still got the nerve to take communion! Girrrl Stop! This should not be! You can’t be fornicating around and calling yourself saved on Sunday, it doesn’t work that way. And believe me you’re doing nothing but bringing stress to your life for years to come sometimes depending on who you dealing with. 

Also, you should never ‘Bop’ in your mess! To mess up and sin is one thing but to walk in it like it’s okay is another and I see it happening all too often in the church. I need you to Bop and take 10 seats - Sit Down! Praying & Repenting is what you need to be doing, God is not pleased with this. 

Top Reasons Not to Thot & Bop: 
  1. God is not pleased with this - your goal as a Christian should be to please God in everything that you do. 1 Peter 1:15-16 says,”15 but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, 16 because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.”
  2. Holiness is right.
  3. This won’t get you married. If you are seeking God for a spouse, then act like it. Thottin’ & Boppin’ is not gon' get you to goal
  4. It produces ungodly Soul Ties (we will approach this more on another day) but these will open the door for evil spirits to enter your life (unnecessary stress and consequences)
  5. It’s just not a good look. Ain’t nothing cute about thottin’ and boppin’. Sin has the tendency to make you look uglier than what you are and you’re too cute for that! 

I thotted and bopped once with a handsome young man. This behavior went on way past its expiration date. The consequence is that I delayed some things that God had for me due to my disobedience. But I thank God that they are just delayed not denied!. 

All I can say to you is don’t do it, it’s not worth it. God’s ways are right regardless of what the world tries to tell you. I’ve been celibate for over two years now and I feel freedom in Christ like never before! So no more thottin’ & boppin’ I’m Motivating & Elevating as God is taking me higher in Him! 

Be Blessed 


  1. Girrl! You were preaching up in here! I'd never heard that term Thot until last week, and it makes me so sad that we degrade each other like that.

    I love what you said about Soul Ties, not only does it open the door...but sometimes it changes us in ways we don't realize until years later. I thank God for my deliverance every day, but I SO wish I would have just done right from the jump. Thank you for being such an encouragement.


    1. Thanks again for your comment! Yes we wish we had been right from jump but there were lessons in the journey, we had to go through it so we would be equipped to help others. Again excited about the connection!

  2. Finally I can comment, the other day I couldn't do a thing on my phone. I busted out laughing when I read the title, but it's so true. It's sad that a lot of our young ladies and even some of our OLDER ladies are "thottin' & boppin' in the church. You would think that they would want to focus on the word of God and not MAN himself. This is a great read Reebs, keep them coming!!!

    1. Thanks for taking the time to comment! Yes we definitely have some work to do in the house! We have to encourage women to walk the way God called them to walk and not just talk the talk!


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