When Love Exits

I’ve never understood exit interviews in the workplace. I mean, they’re so pointless because nobody will ever truly be honest in the interview, in efforts not to burn bridges. When asked, “Why are you deciding to move on?” no one is going to say to the HR person, “Well I’m moving on because this company sucks, the pay sucks and the people suck!” rather, people will usually give a more diplomatic answer like, “Although I’ve grown immensely from my time here, I was presented with a new opportunity where I’ll be able to take what I’ve learned here and apply it to the next phase of my career” or something like that. The HR Exit interviewer will never hear the real, true reason why someone leaves. 

Well, I’ve discovered that exit interviews in relationships are the same way - a straight, real answer is never given. People will present to you a reason that they feel you want to hear or maybe one that they feel you can handle. When love exits stages left, you’ll rarely know the true reason why. This fact is something you have to be settled on and be able to move forward not knowing. It’s okay really because even though you may not know ‘why’ today, the future has a keen way of revealing the ‘why’ when it presents the next blessing! So at the end of the day, knowing why love exited isn’t really important. 

When Love Shows Up, it shows up in grand fashion, pulling out all the stops! Then love accepts you for who you are at least in that moment of time. Love supports, love challenges, and just when you think love commits, love actually becomes withdrawn and unsure. Depending on the level of ‘fight’ love has within, will determine the next step. If the fight is there, then love will push, love will stand and love will persevere. If not, then, just like that - love exits stage left!

It’s been said that it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I agree! I thank love for the experience and for showing me what’s possible. I thank love for being honest about the lack of ‘fight’ within and for diplomacy in the exit interview. Although I may never know the real, true reason why, I’m still glad you were here, even if only for a little while. 

When love exits stage left - God will start writing a new stage play with new plots, new scenes, and new characters! 

Let the new story begin! 

Stop Being A Pen Thief

Listen, I know the Bible says not to steal but trust me, if you hand me a pen or I see a nice one nearby I’m probably going to swipe it! Whether on purpose or by circumstance (like I forgot to give it back) I’m a self-proclaimed pen thief! If you don’t ask for it back, chances are you will never see your pen again lol! Yes, I’m terrible! 

What I have discovered though is that I’m not the only pen thief lurking around deez streets! Some of y'all are undercover pen thieves because you keep stealing the pen that God is trying to write your love story with! Ooop! The Lord is saying, I’m trying to write a beautiful, happy-ending love story for you but every time I turn around, you got the pen in your hand! 

As we are on the eve of Valentine’s Day 2019, I hear the Lord saying, “Daughter, I love you but I don’t need your help”! Stop trying to pen the story the way you want it to go and let God give you what you need. God is trying to give you caring, loving, and attentive and you keep taking the pen and crossing it out for sexy, tall and shallow. Allow God to write and you just be open to the process. Be open to new people and experiences that may look different from the story crafted in your head. Pray for protected exposure so that new things will become visible to you! 

Let God be the author, editor, and publisher of your love story and for goodness sake, stop being a pen thief!    

Make An Effort!

In the world of dating, you have to make an effort to get out and meet new people! Yes you should pray to God and yes you should wait on God but you also have a part to play! 

Make this season of love the one where you do something different :)!!

Enjoy this video and then post your weekend plan ideas in the comments below or on the social media pages. 

-Reebs!