Girrrl Stop!

Have you ever seen the movie series Taken, starring Liam Neeson? It’s a story about two 18-year old girls, Kim and Amanda, who travel to Paris, France only to end up being abducted and ‘taken’ into a human trafficking ring. Neeson plays Bryan Mills, a retired CIA agent with special sniper-like skills; he’s Kim’s father in the movie. Kim (played by Maggie Grace) was a ‘good girl’ in the movie, still a virgin unlike her friend. She was excited about her trip to Paris although her father was completely opposed to it. While on the phone with her Dad, she saw her friend get taken from another room in the house and her Dad let her know that she would inevitably be next. So Bryan Mills goes to Paris and does some heavy investigative work and eventually finds his daughter to bring her back home.  So let’s take a look at this movie a little further and see how we can extract some biblical truths from it for the New Year! The Father knows what we can handle.  Kim’s father was opposed to her takin…

Well Christmas is a few days away and no, I won’t reiterate the true meaning of Christmas or as the cliche goes, ‘the reason for the season’. You know that already! I’m going to do a few posts on this subject because I’m beginning to hear it too often. Honestly, I don’t know where to begin! 


I’ve run into more than a few ladies who are in situationships!  **Situationship - A fake relationship masking itself as a formative relationship. It smells like a relationship, it sorta looks like a relationship, and it may even feel like one, but it's not.**
And it’s like clockwork, every few months or so they’re asking these men, “what are we doing? where is this going?" These particular men (of course this isn't all men, only a select few) give vague answers if they even answer at all. Ladies, please stop entertaining this foolishness. This is not God’s best for you. If a man truly wants you, he will claim you, period. Nah, I ain’t quoting Harvey or any of those other self-proclaimed…

I read a quote emailed to me the other day which stated, "Believe that you're amazing". It was in that moment of reading it that I realized the level of our belief matches our level of greatness. A million people can think you're amazing but if you don't believe it, that amazing wow factor will never manifest itself in your life. God has told us who we are through this Word but do we believe it? 
-God says we are more than conquerors yet we fold at the first sign of adversity 
-God says we are fearfully and wonderfully made yet out insecurity levels are at peak
-God says we are a royal priesthood, a chosen generation yet our behavior exhibits well beneath who we are
Allowing what God says about you to seep into your spirit, will then change what you say about yourself! Once your speech changes your belief will follow!
Tell yourself you're amazing!  - Believe It! Tell yourself you're great! - Believe it!  Tell yourself you're awesome! - Believe It! Tell yourse…

During a recent vacation with some girlfriends we enjoyed a half day at the spa. The name of spa was Metamorphosis Day Spa. During the spa time we enjoyed time in the sauna which was extremely hot and relaxing. I closed my eyes and my friends begin to joke around asking what I was doing and I answered them truthfully: I'm meditating on God's Word. Still in a jovial tone they asked, "Well give us a Word!" As the Lord was speaking to me I shared with them that 2015 was the year of Metamorphosis! 


Metamorphosis is a change of the form or nature of a thing or person into a completely different one by natural or supernatural means. I believe for many of us God used 2015 as a year of development and training, hiding us in our cocoon while he proceeded to transform us by the renewing of our minds! So all of the trials, struggles, hardships, heartaches, heartbreaks, headaches, disappointments, victories and wins were all for our development. God is bringing us into a new seas…

Earlier this week a high school classmate was called from this life to be with the Lord. To those who were really close to her, this was indeed a blow. This is the year that most of us turned 40, a milestone of sorts, an age where we should be celebrating nuptials, baby showers, advanced degrees, and new businesses, it shakes us to our core when we have to face the death of a peer. At age 40, we’ve lived a little bit but in our mind we’re no older than we were the day we graduated high school or college even. There is a small corner of our psyche where the thoughts of being immortal lives until it hits us head on that we are not. My classmate’s battle with Lupus came to an end in the year that she turned 40. 
Death is a lot to digest and it’s even more difficult when the death happens at what we deem to be a young age. So many questions come into our minds as we prepare to bury a classmate, not someone 80 or 90 years old but someone who was only 40. I viewed many FaceBook posts that as…

How many times have you done this? Threw on some sweats, pins/rollers in your hair and just looking a hot mess to run to the store or post office or any other quick errand. It’s at that time that you run into that person that you haven’t seen in forever! Then you get to explaining why you out looking crazy in these streets and the person is giving you that look and saying to themselves: Girrrl Stop!


Ladies, please stop doing this! I’m talking to my self too because I’m guilty of this but this is the season of ‘Love Manifested’ so you never know when you’re going to run into Mr. WontHeDoItGodShowsUpAndShowsOut! Then you gon’ be lookin’ all crazy. The Bible says to ‘be ye also ready, no man knows the day or the hour’ you know, stuff like that lol! 
Now there’s nothing wrong with that cute velour sweatsuit or your tee, jeans and chucks to run errands while your hair is in a ponytail or something but the point here is to look presentable at all times. 
So:  If you come out the house with…

I love to go to the bank and deposit money! This is a great feeling and a blessing to deposit or put money in to my account. Deposits are good as it relates to the bank but what about deposits as it relates to our lives? Whether you realize it or not people who are in your life are doing one or the other: making deposits or withdrawals. It’s usually not hard to tell which transaction is taking place, just examine how you feel as a result of your dealings with a particular person. Are you invigorated, empowered, inspired and ready to take on the world? Or are you drained, zapped of energy and find it taxing to be in this person’s life which proves daily to be an uphill battle? Are they adding or taking away? It really is that simple. 

There’s an old adage that says: you are the company you keep.  As a teenager I didn’t fully know what this meant, I always thought I was my own person so it shouldn’t matter who I hang with; I’m me and they were them. As an adult I’ve come to see that th…

I’ve seen this trend quite a bit here recently where men ask you out but the date is to come over their house so they can “cook” for you. Sometimes I’ve even heard of men suggesting this for a 1st date! Some use the excuse that money is tight and this saves money. Money is indeed tight these days (no argument there) but if it is that tight that you can’t afford Applebee’s 2 for $20, then this may not be the season for you to date! 
I posed this question to the Girrrl Stop nation last week: Is it okay for Christians to have in-home dates (i.e. dinner and movie etc.)? Most responses came on my personal page and not the blog page and one comment was “it really doesn’t matter because you can sin anywhere”. It is a true statement, you can sin anywhere but let me submit this question: 
Now this is for the win! Which scenario is more likely to result in fornication: 
Choice 1 - 2 for $20 at Applebee’s Choice 2 - Cooking dinner at the house and snuggling up on the couch for a movie
Ok, three…

Have you ever caught yourself saying this? 
-He’s separated and up for grabs! -He’s emotionally checked out of the marriage years ago so he’s single -He’s separated, he doesn’t even live with her anymore -He’s separated so he’s available
Girrrl Stop! Let me say that again: Girrrl Stop!


Separated is still married and last time I checked, you can date a married man! Don’t be fooled and don’t be made a fool of. When you encounter separated men you never know what can come of that situation so it’s best to fall back until the divorce is in black!
If you date online, you will see that the sites do allow separated men to sign-up and in their profile it will say ‘Legally Separated’ but real talk, that still means ‘Legally Married’. Many men and women choose to date while they are separated because maybe they feel the relationship is really over and they want to move on, however this can be a recipe for disaster for the single person!
Here are a few reasons single women should steer clear of…

I recently heard this term from my younger/older cousin. I call him that because he’s younger chronologically but very mature in many ways. When he said thottin’ & boppin’ you know I had to ask! The term THOT (which I loath) means ‘that ho over there’. The term boppin’ here suggest to be proud of what you’re doing almost as if to have no shame about it. I laughed at this as he explained to me what it was because honestly it just sounds funny. After giving it some thought, it is my message to my Christian sisters! 

Stop thottin’ & boppin’ in the church! Thottin’ and boppin’ brings consequences and unnecessary stress. What do I mean? We all go through seasons of disobedience and as the old folks used to say, obedience is better than sacrifice. Maybe you’ve found yourself here: dating a man in the church, sleeping with him and still coming to sing on the choir on Sunday, and dare I say still got the nerve to take communion! Girrrl Stop! This should not be! You can’t be fornicati…

In this world full of colloquialisms there seems to be a new one every week, I can hardly keep up. From the young generation to hip hop trendsetter to the LBGT community, they are constantly coming up a new saying. I mean, the name of my blog is proof of that - Girrrl Stop - ok I just love saying it, lol.  Let’s see, we have ‘Bye Felichia’, ‘Girl Bye’ and I’m sure by the time I’m finished writing this there will be another one - Bye Everything! One of my favorites is ‘Chile Boo’, made relevant to me by my good friend Stephanie. She kills all foolishness with two words - Chile Boo!
I received an IM from a male associate one night past what I consider to be a respectable hour. He just asked, “what you doing up so late, working on your blog?” True, I was up but not to be IM’ing yo! I ignored it and answered him the next day. I was civil but I had to make it clear to him in my IM, “let’s 86 the messages beyond midnight”. This clown wrote back, “Really? Chile Boo”. 
GIRRRL! Please stop let…

When I saw this on someone’s timeline I truly laughed out loud, it’s hella funny (sorry I’m still caught up in Straight Outta Compton). Although I really dislike terms like side chick, jump-off, etc., I'm going to use it on today. We all know the real reason Jesus died for us but in essence, this quote drives home the fact that Jesus wants you to have His best. God’s best is not being with someone else’s man ladies, this has to stop! Stop believing the myth of there’s not enough men because it’s not true. Stop believing the myth that all the good men are taken because they’re not! 
Don’t settle for sloppy seconds. Don’t settle for used goods. This is what I mean: you wouldn’t wear another woman’s underwear after she took them off, right? Then why are you sleeping with her man? I pray my readers aren’t doing this but I’m just trying to make a point here! 

Don’t settle for disrespect of any kind. When you’re a side chick, you’re being disrespected, period (as well as the "main c…