Monday, July 2, 2018

Girrrl Court Yourself!

July Theme: Wed Yourself
"The Courtship"

I love courtship and the whole process of making a commitment to someone and taking the time necessary to truly get to know them. Courtship is loosely defined as a period during which a couple develops a romantic relationship, especially with a view toward marriage. One of the main differences between dating and courtship is dating tries to answer the question, How can I find the one who will make me happy? Courtship strives to answer the question, How can I honor God and discern His direction regarding my life partner?

So how does this all correlate to you? How can you court yourself? By answering the question above: How can I honor God and discern His direction regarding my life? (minus one word). Girrrl court yourself!



Here are three ways you can begin to court yourself:

1. Ask yourself from tough questions - Courtship involves asking some tough, reflective questions. Are you settled on your life purpose? If so, are you on track with your purpose? Are you happy? If not, what can you do to change your outlook? When we ask ourselves these questions we begin to peel back new layers of ourselves that lead to new and fun discoveries! 

2. Get Accountable! - Part of the courtship process is accountability. This is one of the other major differences between courtship and dating - accountability. First off hold yourself accountable for your small steps of progress in this courtship. Truly commit to seeking God for the next steps of your life. Then pray about an accountability partner, someone who will encourage you, correct you and help you get back on track with your goals. Someone who will offer a kind word as the Holy Spirit leads. 

3. Fall in love with you again! - What do you do when you’re in love (not the dumb stuff we do but the nice, cutesy stuff)? You smile at him. You write him nice notes with smiley faces. You get excited when you know you’re going to spend time with him. You know, that type of stuff! Well, when you wake up each day, look yourself in the mirror and smile :)!!! Write yourself nice notes and post them around your space (think Being Mary Jane) as a way to encourage yourself as you are beginning this courtship journey! 

4. Believe you’re worthy!! - Walk into your courtship with yourself knowing that you are worthy of it! You are worth the work! Regardless of past mistakes, failures, night seasons, etc. you are still worthy and worth it! 


As we “Wed Ourselves” this July let’s begin with the Courtship and really get to know ourselves on a deeper level. Let’s peel back some new layers and discover some new, interesting and fun things about ourselves. 

Remember: 
You are amazing! You are awesome! You are aligned! 

Be Encouraged. Be Inspired. 

Thursday, May 31, 2018

Release Dat!

Well it’s the last day of May and the last of our series: It’s Renewal Season! If you’re going to be renewed this season you’ve got to learn how to release some stuff so that God can revive, refresh, and restore your spirit! 


Photo Cred: Nigel Morgan

Sometimes we walk around with stuff that God didn’t intend for us to carry. We keep things bottled in that if someone just taps us we might explode. So my word to end this series is simple today: Girrrl Release Dat! 

-So what you’ve made some mistakes in your past - God has forgiven you and moved on and now it’s time for you to ‘Release Dat’! 

-You keep making excuses about what you can’t do based on some lie you tell yourself: 
Ex: I can’t start this business because I’m not business savvy, I wouldn’t know where to begin

LIES! - You are indeed business savvy, you don’t make it 20+, 25+,35+, 40+ years in life not knowing anything. ‘Release Dat’!  

-You’re still hurt by that family member or friend who wronged you. Your anger keeps you up at night and is literally causing you physical distress. Girrrl pray to God to remove it and then ‘Release Dat’!!

Whatever you are holding on to, whatever belief is holding you back, whatever hurt you are holding on to that you refuse to let go, whatever habit you are holding on to that is stunting your growth, it’s time to ‘Release Dat’! 

By now you’ve noticed that every time I write ‘Release Dat’ I bold it. That way when you skim this post and the main point will saturate your spirit! 

Give the ‘dat’ over to God. Let Him remove it and do away with it for you. There’s an old hymn (do churches still sing hymns?) we used to sing called ‘I Surrender All’: 

All to Jesus I surrender
All to Him I freely give
I will ever love and trust Him
In His presence daily live

Chorus: 
I surrender all
I surrender all
All to Thee my blessed Savior 
I surrender all

Girrrl do the work that you have to do and ‘Release Dat’! God wants you to be free, refreshed, restored and ready to live your life!  

Remember: 
You are worthy! You are exuberant! You are a unlimited! 


Renew. Refresh. Slay! 

Sunday, May 27, 2018

Prepaid: An Inspirational Moment

**REPOST - I ran across this older post I wrote some time ago but it did indeed bless me today - I hope it blesses you too**

My younger cousin has a Boost Mobile cell phone. This company has built its brand on being a prepaid cell service provider. This means you prepay for your minutes each month and when the next month comes, if you don’t pay, it is okay you just won’t have any minutes to use. No contracts, no hassle I suppose but the best part is you never owe a bill. I’m sure Boost does not have a collections department because everything is prepaid!



When I think of this concept my mind begins to wander to Christ and how he prepaid the price for our sinful natures. There’s a popular Christian cliché that simply says “Jesus Paid it All”. The word ‘paid’ is a verb; it is the past participle of the word ‘pay’ which denotes that ‘paid’ is an action that has already taken place. Just as my cousin pays her Boost Mobile bill so she’ll have minutes to use, Jesus Paid It All way back on Calvary so that you and I might have ‘Minutes in Victory’,  ‘Minutes in Peace’, and ‘Minutes in Blessings’! 

He did all of this in advance!


When I think of God doing this in advance for us, my mind, body and soul begins to rejoice because I’m ‘paid in full’!!!

Monday, May 21, 2018

God of the Turn Around!!

Girrrl stop worrying and let your mind and spirit be renewed knowing this: God is the God of the turn around! (I’ll pause….while you shout!)


God specializes in turning things around! Trust me, I’m not telling what I heard but what I know! He has a special knack for putting His hands on the situation and making it work out for your good - oh yeah, He said that in His Word - “And we know all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28). God can turn around your self-esteem, your depression, your finances, your motives, your heart and even the heart of others - He will make your enemy your footstool! There’s no limit to the depths God will go for His children so Girrrl - stop worrying! 

Worrying does not fuel your spirit rather, it completely deflates it. It gets you no where but headed to your freezer to kill a half of gallon of Breyers cookies and cream ice cream (so I’ve heard….) and now you holding together your summer capris with a safety pin - Girrrl Stop! 

Read Matthew 6:25-34 and make a vowel today to stop worrying - God is the God of the turn around, He will take care of you! Seek God and trust in His provision, He will turn it around!! 

You are worthy! You are fearfully and wonderfully made! 
You are greatness unleashed! 


Renew. Refresh. Slay! 

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Girrrl Celebrate It!

Hey Girrrl Stop Nation! I know y'all out there making goals and stuff (#goaldiggers) but as we are focusing on renewal in the month of May I want to encourage you to celebrate the small wins! 



Every large goal requires smaller goals in order to reach them. You know you could say, “Lord, my goal is to not cuss folks out anymore” and then lo and behold Sister Lulabell at the church bring some craziness to you and you get to cussin’! But this time you only went ham for 30 seconds as opposed to your normal 15 minutes!! Well celebrate that - it’s an accomplishment! 

I’m a new believer in celebrating small wins because it gives that dose of encouragement you need to stay in the race and keep going! For every small win you know you’re that much closer to the main goal!  

-You may not have reached your 25 pound weight loss goal yet but you’re going to the gym 3-4 times a week on a regular basis - celebrate it! 

-You may not have paid off that credit card yet but you are now sticking to a budget for the first time in your life - celebrate it! 

-You may not have fully mastered not going nuts on your teenager for their smart aleck mouth but this week you mastered the 
‘you-got-3-seconds-to-get-out-of-my-sight’ look and poof! They disappeared into another room or another galaxy but who cares, you got some peace! - celebrate it! 



Celebrating those small wins will renew and fuel your spirit, causing you to feel absolutely amazing about yourself and keep you going even through tough situations!  

2 Chronicles 15:7 (NLT) - But as for you, be strong and courageous, for your work will be rewarded

(MSG) - But it’s different for you: Be strong. Take heart. Payday is coming!

Remember: 
You are incredible! You are awesome! You are a winner! 


Renew. Refresh. Slay! 

Girrrl Court Yourself!

July Theme: Wed Yourself "The Courtship" I love courtship and the whole process of making a commitment to someone and takin...