It’s been said that people may not remember what you said
to them but they will always remember how you made them feel. This is how I
remember Brock Benbow as one who would make me smile. I’m one of those people
who if I hear someone laughing, I don’t even have to know what they are
laughing at, I’m probably gonna start laughing too! Same goes for when someone smiles:
you smile, I smile. Brock had a smile that seemed to be etched on his face, it never
moved. I imagine that even the undertakers will not be able to contour his face
away from that smile.
God decided to call Brock, my Sunday School student, home
on November 11, 2019 at the tender age of 24 years old. So young, so sudden. I’m
finding it hard to grapple with this one and I even find myself at times
questioning God. Why him God? Why this one? Why now? The questions fill my head
but they topple over when I re-focus on the fact the God knows best. I am grateful
that I had the opportunity to spend the majority of the last weeken…
Have you ever caught yourself saying this?
-He’s separated and up for grabs!
-He’s emotionally checked out of the marriage years ago so he’s single
-He’s separated, he doesn’t even live with her anymore
-He’s separated so he’s available
Let me say that again: Girrrl Stop!
Separated is still married and last time I checked, you can date a married man! Don’t be fooled and don’t be made a fool of. When you encounter separated men you never know what can come of that situation so it’s best to fall back until the divorce is in black!
If you date online, you will see that the sites do allow separated men to sign-up and in their profile it will say ‘Legally Separated’ but real talk, that still means ‘Legally Married’. Many men and women choose to date while they are separated because maybe they feel the relationship is really over and they want to move on, however this can be a recipe for disaster for the single person!
Here are a few reasons single women should steer clear of…
I recently heard this term from my younger/older cousin. I call him that because he’s younger chronologically but very mature in many ways. When he said thottin’ & boppin’ you know I had to ask! The term THOT (which I loath) means ‘that ho over there’. The term boppin’ here suggest to be proud of what you’re doing almost as if to have no shame about it. I laughed at this as he explained to me what it was because honestly it just sounds funny. After giving it some thought, it is my message to my Christian sisters!
Stop thottin’ & boppin’ in the church! Thottin’ and boppin’ brings consequences and unnecessary stress. What do I mean? We all go through seasons of disobedience and as the old folks used to say, obedience is better than sacrifice. Maybe you’ve found yourself here: dating a man in the church, sleeping with him and still coming to sing on the choir on Sunday, and dare I say still got the nerve to take communion! Girrrl Stop! This should not be! You can’t be fornicati…