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Girrrl Check Yo' RAGADICITY!

It’s 4 days into the new year, are you getting settled in to 2018 yet? I hope so because it’s here! 

I love the new year because it produces new and fresh perspectives on life, goals, and even dreams. So I thought I’d start with this message: Girrrl! Let’s decrease our “Ragadicity” levels in 2018! I hear you asking, what in the world is Ragadicity? I like to make up words from time to time and this time is no exception: 



I sat in on a webinar recently and they had us evaluate various areas of our lives. So on a scale of 1 - 10 with 10 being the most ragged, what’s your Ragadicity level in the following areas: 

Physical/Fitness - 
Personal Development - 
Spiritual - 
Career/Business - 
Social - 
Financial - 

Once you jot this down, take a moment and reflect on that. The reality is for most people there will be some areas where you are stellar in and then some areas where your Ragadicity is high. We want to work on decreasing the levels that are high! For instance, a major focus for me this year is financial - Girrrl, I gotta get my money right! This impacts so many things and right now my Ragadicity level is on 12! What area is your Ragadicity level high? What’s your game plan to decrease it? If you don’t have one now is the time to create it. 

Let’s take social for instance. Girrrl, last time you’ve been on a date the drama ‘This Is Us’ was premiering (9/2016)! If this is you, examine what steps you could take to change this and how this change could impact your life. So you might commit to going out with friends twice a month or you could commit to a volunteer project a few times a month. Either of these could place you in front of new people to connect in various ways. 

This will take a little work and reflection but it will be well worth it. When you can see things in front of you it makes it real. 

When It Becomes Real, You Can Deal! 

So let’s decrease the Ragadicity levels in our lives in 2018! 

Ok, moving on….

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